Dating Older Women

 Men in history have had it easy. There was absolutely no stigma for an older man to date a younger woman. On the contrary, he would get a wink and an elbow bump from the guys for snagging himself a little cutie. But there was a serious double standard for women in the past. An older woman dating a younger man was a travesty. There were woman in the past in the US that actually hid the age of themselves or their husband if the husband was younger to avoid being ostracized. The reasons? Simple. Older women were not as child bearing ready as younger women. However, today, not everyone is looking to procreate. Older men are more financially stable than younger men. Not necessarily true. Our job market is changing daily.

So, what reasons do younger men look to older women? Benjamin Franklin had some ideas on the reasoning, and he was a genious. He said (paraphrasing):

1. Older women are more worldly, have more to talk about, and have seen and know a lot that will keep a man interested.
2. Older women are kinder than younger women and take better care of you. (He also notes that even though they aren't as pretty as younger ones, etc., to which I don't necessarily agree. This day and age of makeovers and moisturizers are keeping older women on the hot list.)
3. Older women are less likely to get pregnant. (Well, we all know what good old Ben was doing during his lifetime, so no surprise he sticks this in here.) He also noted that pregnancy could become an inconvenience.
4. They are better and cleaner than prostitutes. (Yep, Ben has sex on his mind for certain.) Older women are more discreet when it comes to sex than younger women. Not that I've seen many women running around yelling about their sexual experiences on a regular basis, but perhaps. He also states that people could forgive an older woman for having sex with a younger man more easily than forgiving a younger woman for giving up her goods at all. My my how times have changed.
5. Okay, now this some may find offensive, but please, remember that Ben said this and not myself. He says that even though the muscles at the top of the body on an older woman may lack some contour, that her lower extremities that matter are still ready and raring to go. A man won't be able to tell the difference on the down under.
6. Ben says there is less sin in sexual encounters with an older  de-virginized woman than "debauching" a virgin. Wouldn't Ben be surprised today? Evidently making someone a non-virgin ruins their life.
7. You will make a young woman miserable, but you will make an old woman happy. Evidently older women are less demanding and expect less. I'm starting to think good ole Benjamin Franklin didn't know much about women at all.
8. Finally, Ben says that older women will be so grateful for the act. Really, Ben? This coming from a man with a 15 year old common law wife and a slew of mistresses?

In truth there are studies show pros and cons for both ways. In the long run it's not the age that matters, but the quality of the relationship and the compatibility of the people involved.

I personally have been on both ends of the spectrum. I married an older man and the marriage didn't last due to me growing in a different direction after a while. I then married a younger man and we are perfectly happy and still going strong. We communicate better.

The one thing I do agree with Benjamin Franklin on is marriage. If you find the right person then do it
... well, don't just do it... put a ring on a finger, say the words, and mean it.